We are INDIANS…!!!!

As the title suggests, this blog is about Indians. To be honest, I might not be able to set the tone of the blog but just wanted to share some observations.

We, Indians, are very interesting, complex and weird people. May be these observations might be true for other races too, but I cannot confirm or deny it. I can talk about Indians because I am an Indian and I can observe my fellow countrymen with some more details as compared to others.

This blog is dedicated to those Indians who are not residing in India and specifically residing in USA. Why USA? Because I am in USA. Hence my observations about only USA residing Indians. My observations does not mean that I am not a part of it. So, don’t think that I am any different than the rest. Folks I, myself behave the same way.

Observations:

  1. We think that we are the only capable person who has the privilege to live in USA. The moment, an Indian sees another Indian, he thinks that how the other person managed to come and live in USA.
  2. We don’t like what we are and we all strive to be someone else. For e.g. – We want to have an American ascent and we strive hard to achieve it. We want to achieve it so that we can communicate with locals. I might be wrong, but I feel we are the only race doing that. I see other Asians (with really difficult English ascent) not trying hard to change it.
  3. We really dislike each other. We will not go to a particular restaurant just because it is famous among Indians. We will not sign an apartment lease because many Indians stays there. We will not go to a particular vacation spot due to its popularity among Indians.
  4. We are really pretentious and have double standards for what is done in India and what is done in USA. Let me give you some examples.
  • We like and appreciate Arnold Schwarzenegger’s movies where he alone destroys an entire battalion but we criticize when Dharmendra or Sunny Deol does the same thing.
  • We enjoy Harry Potter movies where between two wizards shoot electricity from their wands but we laugh and make jokes when similar things are shown in Mahabharata or Ramayana.
  • We are enthralled to see James Bond do all the crazy actions without getting any wrinkles on his blazer but we want to talk physics when Rajnikant or Mithun kills two people with one single bullet.
  • We talk about cleanliness in USA and we just go shooting crap all over the street the moment we land in India.
  • We will never visit any orphanage in India but we put up a live show in USA.
  • We will be preaching anti-corruption all the way in USA but the moment we land on any Indian airport, we will try to bribe the custom officer.

      The list is too long but I hope you get the gist. I know many readers will be offended by this but folks this is just for fun. As I said, I do subset of all the things above.

Just read it, laugh on it and forget..

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My solution for Rapes….

Recently, it seems like rapes are commonplace in India. Irrespective of age, sex, time and place, we hear about rapes everywhere. I am not an emotional guy but when I read or hear any atrocity against women, my heart cries. If I see any video where a woman is being sexually, physically or mentally abused, I get restless and rage takes over my sane mind. I always think of how to stop these rapes and punish the culprit in such a way that the severe punishment sets an example for others.

During the last couple of months, there is an argument about the punishment for rapist. There are many recommendations:

  1. Death sentence
  2. Castration
  3. Rigorous imprisonment
  4. Public hanging etc.

I, personally think that all these punishment is not too harsh for a rapist. To understand my point of view, lets talk about the victim for a second. For the sake of it, consider I am a woman and I have been. Let us now discuss about me and my situation after the incident.

  • I cannot trust any male around me.
  • Society will never accept me. (This is the worst thing a society does)
  • Most will think that I enjoyed being raped and I am the person to blame. I will have to fight with all of them and protect me from not being insane and start accusing myself.
  • I want the victims be punished and I have to fight with the law so the culprits be punished. (I expect that law will fight with me but it is opposite)
  • I will never have a normal life with family and kids.
  • Even if I become a part of the work force and get a job, pretty sure that I will not get the same treatment as others.

All those could be handled but the most important one, being a victim, I am traumatized for life. I will live in constant fear about re-occurrence of the event. I might lose my self-esteem, self-respect and self-confidence and it is difficult to recover from this situation.

Now, do you really think that death sentence or any other punishment is enough for the culprits? For me, it seems like death sentence is easy way out for the culprits. I don’t think any of the punishment is comparable to the situation faced by the victim.

Solution:-

To be honest, my solution is not in adherence to non-violence ideology or human rights code. I don’t think that rapist be treated as human. I think a murderer is far better than a rapist. A murderer kills the victim for once but a rapist kills the victims for the rest of the life. The victims dies every day till the wounds are healed.

I think that women be more powerful. It seems that today, law of jungle is applicable everywhere. If you are powerful, others respect you.
Lets go back to my example, I am a rape victim and now I have two choices.

  1. Believe in the law and hope that law will take it course and punish the culprits, which might take forever.
  2. Take matters in my hand.

I would take path number 2. Anyways, the culprits messed up my life. The culprits have made my life miserable. Why not, I take matters in my hand and teach them a lesson, so that no one will ever dare to rape anyone. If 10-15 victims followed my path and made sure that the culprits and inhumanely punished, I really think that all the possible rapist around will get the lesson and will not mess up with any woman again. I know that an eye for an eye will make this world blind but that does not mean that we should not retaliate when a wild dog attacks your. For me all the rapists are wild dogs and should be shot on point-blank in front of everyone.

My dear woman, law might punish the culprit but it will not make the trauma go away. The culprits will get some punishment but then they will be back in the world looking for another prey. All I really care is that you, the victim, should be at peace and there should not be any victim of this inhuman action.

Women, I am really sorry (from all the sane men in the world).

Really, Grow up….

So, the other day, I was having this discussion with my friend.

Me – Have you seen this movie?

Friend – Ohh yeah. It was an amazing movie.

Me – Yeah it was, but I kind a was bored.

Friend – Really hurt (don’t know why?)..!!! (some moments later), You have to grow to like such movies….

I was dumbfounded and thought why would my friend say such a thing? I mean, I thought I did not offend my friend by speaking about my friend’s personality or habits or any personal thing, then why is my friend trying to offend me? I was offended but still I forgave my friend, but I couldn’t forget it. I was like, it is just a stupid movie, why would anyone take it so personally.

It is just matter of likes and dislikes. Give me a person/thing/place that everyone likes. It is not possible to have something that everyone likes. Even some thing as bad as guns, not everyone is on board to ban it. And something as good as peace, not everyone likes it either, else there would be no war in this world. If some one does not share your likings then it does not mean that you should be condescending.

Don’t try to characterize anyone based on penchant towards movies/brands/songs/food or any materialistic things. Please try to have a different perspective. Don’t get offended on such silly things and try to strike back.

I hope with time, I develop an attitude of ignorance towards such comments and people around me. I may not be able to change people around me but I can definitely change myself.

People, who share my feelings, hang in their and don’t get offended. Try to be ignorant so that you will be at peace….!!! All the best…!!!!

Money…!!!

I always try to be really serious with money. I like to keep all the transactions in order with everyone. I keep a tab of who spend where and how much I owe anyone and how much some one owes me. I think for me it is more important to keep a track of how much I owe someone rather that how much some one owes me.

My attitude is not because I am stingy or spendthrift or because its “MY MONEY”.

I have seen relations getting bitter over time due to money. I just want to avoid that situation. I have amazing family and friends, but still I try to keep all my finances clean.

Let us say, I spent more on my best friend as compared to what he spent on me. I think that won’t bother me as long as I have enough. But the day when my pockets aren’t deep enough, I will detest for my actions during good times. That will infact turn my amazing relation into a jungle of bitterness.

But if I try to keep my finances and my relationships separate, at least I am eliminating one possible reason for ruining my relationships. I know that is crazy of me but I cannot predict the future. Things can and will change, money will come and go but relationships will helps us in holding things together and I do not want to ruin it just because of small petty amounts.

I don’t think keeping finances separate means I don’t like or trust my relationships. It just means, I hold my relationships more important than money…!!!

Reading between lines…. Why?

I have noticed lot of us end up reading between lines which is the basis of all the confusion and problem we have in our social circle.

For e.g.

If I say, I like Hitler, it ends up propagating as I hate Jews.

If I say, I believe in arrange marriages, it ends up as I am against love marriages.

If I say, I do not have to drink every time I party, it doesn’t mean that I am against drinking or partying or I am not against who do that always.

 

Why can’t we keep it simple instead of adding complications. I mean Hitler had many qualities, and not all of them were bad. I admire his devotion and respect towards his home country, Germany (that’s what I read it from books). But it doesn’t mean that I admire his atrocities towards Jews. In the same way, there are so many incidences that occur in our day to day life. But people around us end up reading between lines and make some incorrect conclusion and spread it across.

It becomes extremely difficult to deal with these scenarios. At times, people can even understand or hear words that you did not event speak. It becomes extremely important to properly read the audience around you before you even start to speak.

Eternal Peace

Eternal Peace:

I been very irregular in my blogs these days. Right now, blogs are not the priority at all. I spend most of time watching movies or TV shows over and over. I keep on promising myself not to re-run any movie or TV show but end up doing it. Anyways, a different blog for that some time later.

I had my yearly India visit and I would say this was the by far the best visit of my life. I was in India just for two weeks but I never felt so happy and content. The good part is, I know the exact reason for my happiness.

Every India trip, I visit some religious places in India. Sailani (a small town near Buldana) is one of the place which I visit without fail. The typical activity I perform there:

  1. Reach Sailani
  2. Visit all the “dargahs”
  3. Return back.

But this time I added two more activites:

  1. We reached Sailani
  2. We got food with us and we distributed food to 100 people
  3. We distributed clothes.
  4. We visited all the “dargahs”
  5. We returned.

There are many poor people in Sailani. Sailani is not a place with all the richness like Tirupati or Shirdi. It really felt very nice to help these people. I understand giving food for a day is not going to make a very big significance in their life but it just took care of one day. If people start doing something just for one day then eventually the entire year will be taken care and these destitute people will find some hope and happiness in their gloomy life.

Sometime, I still feel happy when I retrospect my day at this religious place. I believe I understood what actually eternal peace means. No job, no money, no car, no house, no gadget helped me attaining this state.

I wish to do something for the poor and destitute throughout the year and not just one day. Please direct me to the right groups (if you know of)  so that I can help them while I am not in India.

Mantra for Happy Life…..

There are many books that explains the mantra for Happy Life. I will try to summarize all of that in my blog post.

Requirements for Happy Life…

1. Good education

2. Decent stable job

3. Good place to live

4. Good and happy family

5. A good and understanding wife

6. Good friends around and

7. A decent life with all the required amenities.

 

By God’s grace, I have all of these but still there is something that is missing in my life. I wish I would know what it is but still not able to discover it. I know that I am very lucky to have all of these but still not able to appreciate it entirely because of one missing thing.

A pray for some enlightenment and help me solve some mysteries of my life. I think then only I will be able to attain the eternal peace.

All the books that talks about Happy Life are a sham. Every person is different and has different requirements.

In short, there is no one Mantra for Happy LIFE…..