The other day I watched a movie called as Bol and I was really moved.
The movie is about a couple aspiring for a boy but parenting a girl at every attempt. Finally the couple, parents a boy but the boy is an eunuch. The father wants the boy to be euthanized but the mother resists. The reason for father’s act – the boy will not have a normal life and will spend life like other eunuchs and bring shame to his name.
Lets stop here and get into the deep meaning of the last sentence. (I, personally, is against killing or aborting a child just based on sex. So, this blog is not about it. Just wanted to make it clear.)
Lets look from the father’s perspective about the eunuch child.
- The child will not have a normal life
- The child will not have friends and family as everyone.
- The child will not have a status in the society
- The child will not have equal job opportunities
- There won’t be any progress of the child and etc. etc.
I don’t agree with “bringing shame to my name” so I won’t go in that area.
I, personally think that all the points above are valid. Do I want my child to go through that process? Do I want my child not to have the same opportunity as others? Do I want a hard life for my child.
I, definitely do not want those things for my child. I would want that my child to be euthanized. You might feel, that I am very insensitive but let me explain through two perspective – practical and spiritual.
There is a saying “survival of the fittest”. Take up any animal species and you will find that example to be true. For e.g. Cobra’s – when the eggs are hatched, the mother creates a wall around the eggs and wait for the kids to cross it. The kids that couldn’t cross are eaten by the mother. Eagles – They always give two eggs. One egg is bigger and the other is smaller. The smaller egg/child is turned into food when the food is scarce.
In short, the world is meant for fittest. Just imagine the life of your child where everyone around is fitter. Imagine the pain the child will need to bear when the society neglects it, when the society sympathizes for the condition of the child or do something out of pity. I mean, I couldn’t even imagine the mental condition of the child. Do I want my child to go through all this…? I definitely do not..
Let for the sake of it believe in reincarnation. According to Hinduism, every one is reborn after death as penance due to past life sins.
Lets believe that your child is born with some defects due to some past life sins. Do you want your child to suffer for all the past life sins or you want your child to be absolved from the sins by euthanizing the child?
In Mahabharata, Ganga gives birth to 8 boys and she kills 7 of them. She couldn’t kill the 8the one which turns out to be Bhisma. If you read Bhisma’s life story, you would realize all the trouble he has to go through. Ganga kills her 7 boys because the 8 boys were cursed because of past life act. And she promised that she will set them free from the curse by killing them the day they are born. And hence she kills them.
So, it could be possible that my unborn child is cursed because of some past life sins and I am the chosen one to set him free from the hardships of this life so my child could have a better next life.
Well, this is just a perspective and I am sure that each one of us can come up with a new and different perspective. My idea was just to provide a perspective and not to discuss about its superiority.